Forgive and forget

The incident reminds me of several histories that I would like to forget and forgive but so sorry... I can't!

23 April 2011 -- Yesterday, a colleague and I was discuss about this issue again. She said, "People did something evil to me I'll forgive them but I just can't get back to the relationship like before. Why will I trying to stay away from them?"

Well, as a listener, I commented, "Belum maafkan lagi la tu~"

She defended heself, "No! Normally immediately after the incident I already forgive them. But I just need to always remind myself to be careful with these people, make sure I wont fall into their traps anymore. But sometimes I do feeling disgusting when I see them?"

Hmm... from the perspective of a listener, I shared, "It is so obvious from your words, you haven't forgive them. Or should I say... bak kata pepatah, you forgive but you do not forget?"

 

Then, she diagnosed, "Actually, the phrase should be forgive and forget. When somebody says he/she forgive but not forget meaning belum maafkan lagi lah sebenarnya."

 

After a long silent, she finally realised and said, "Yes, may be you are right.... but what should I do? I really want to forgive them and get back to the relationship like before... ... Macam mane nie?"

 

LOL~ the scenario sounds familiar? This is life and how complicated our mind and heart are :D They just always conflict with each other...