我們踏在失敗的廢墟上，才能攀上天庭。
找出自己失敗的原因，就是一種成功。
——Amos Bronson Alcott，美國教育家
这是一句值得深思的话。很多人害怕失败的感觉，包括我。我害怕那份挫败感，我担心无地自容的尴尬。难掩的恐惧感... ...
往往我们都忘了那句格言：“失败乃成功之母！”找出自己失敗的原因， 就是迈向成功的第一步。没有反省只会让我们重蹈覆辙，永远困于失败的魔咒里。
Sunday, May 24, 2009
Monday, May 18, 2009
那一枚戒指的意义
刚看过一篇文章题目为《为什么把结婚戒指脱下》，感触良多。
未婚的，很多都爱戴上戒指；已婚的，不乏不爱戴着那枚戒指的。到底是为什么？原因不外乎只有一个，就是不想承认那段婚姻，有点什么不满甚至是后悔了。其他的原因，都只是一个借口。过敏？是否知道心理其实也能导致过敏？不合穿了？买过一对不就得了吗？还可趁机换一换款式呢！或许现在生活变好了，可以换一枚更称心如意的:)
未婚的，很多都爱戴上戒指；已婚的，不乏不爱戴着那枚戒指的。到底是为什么？原因不外乎只有一个，就是不想承认那段婚姻，有点什么不满甚至是后悔了。其他的原因，都只是一个借口。过敏？是否知道心理其实也能导致过敏？不合穿了？买过一对不就得了吗？还可趁机换一换款式呢！或许现在生活变好了，可以换一枚更称心如意的:)
我们如此陌生
不知道从什么时候开始
我们变得如此陌生
你不再理会我的感受
不知道从什么时候开始
我们变得如此陌生
我不再理解你的想法
不知道从什么时候开始
我们变得如此陌生
你不再倾听我得难受
不知道从什么时候开始
我们变得如此陌生
我不再打听你的生活
不知道从什么时候开始
我们变得如此陌生
不再对对方嘘寒问暖
那一个星期至少一顿饭的约定
早已无声无息地消逝在空气里
我们一直都为这件事耿耿于怀
我们一直都在憋着内心的不满
这样的关系究竟还能持续多久
我们心里霎是明镜般的清楚啊
明明知道拖拖拉拉只会更痛苦
我们俩到底还在坚持着什么呢
是在作无谓的挣扎 绝望的奢望
我们变得如此陌生
你不再理会我的感受
不知道从什么时候开始
我们变得如此陌生
我不再理解你的想法
不知道从什么时候开始
我们变得如此陌生
你不再倾听我得难受
不知道从什么时候开始
我们变得如此陌生
我不再打听你的生活
不知道从什么时候开始
我们变得如此陌生
不再对对方嘘寒问暖
那一个星期至少一顿饭的约定
早已无声无息地消逝在空气里
我们一直都为这件事耿耿于怀
我们一直都在憋着内心的不满
这样的关系究竟还能持续多久
我们心里霎是明镜般的清楚啊
明明知道拖拖拉拉只会更痛苦
我们俩到底还在坚持着什么呢
是在作无谓的挣扎 绝望的奢望
Wednesday, May 13, 2009
I have learnt a meaningful phrase today
Thoughts become things... choose the good ones!
'Nothing is impossible, if your heart is willing'.
'Nothing is impossible, if your heart is willing'.
Why mother is so special ?
When I came home in the rain,
Brother asked why didn't you take an umbrella.
Sister advised,
Why didn't you wait till rain stopped.
Father angrily warned,
only after getting cold, you will realize.
But Mother, while drying my hair,
said, stupid rain! Couldn't it wait, till my child came home?
That's MOM
p/s: a poem i received upon mother's day
Brother asked why didn't you take an umbrella.
Sister advised,
Why didn't you wait till rain stopped.
Father angrily warned,
only after getting cold, you will realize.
But Mother, while drying my hair,
said, stupid rain! Couldn't it wait, till my child came home?
That's MOM
p/s: a poem i received upon mother's day
Tuesday, May 12, 2009
I am confused…
n 年前， 有一次祷告时我这么说：“…. 我总是做错决定，所以我现在把选择对象的事交托给您。当我的理想对象出现时，我或许粗心大意没发现他,请求您给我一点提示。也请您带领您赐给我的对象邀请我一起信主。当您认为我们是时候组织家庭的时候，那就请您让他带着xxxx 来向我求婚吧！”
这些年，有不少我认为可以发展的人出现。但没有人对我说过那句话… … 我问自己，是否要做自己的主人？但我总觉得应该信任您。可最近太多不错的选择出现，您却没给我一点提示。我气恼，不断祷告。后来您安排了这样的一个人出现。第一次见面，十分钟内他就一字不漏地说了那十个字。我错愣！为什么是在这种情况下？为什么是一个陌生人？而且，为什么没有那闪电的感觉？跟他聊着聊着，我觉得这个不是我要的人啊！到底发生了什么事？
这就是您赐给我的那个Mr.Right 吗？抑或想考验我？抑或是教训？我糊涂了... ...
后记：我知道这是您的答案了！
这些年，有不少我认为可以发展的人出现。但没有人对我说过那句话… … 我问自己，是否要做自己的主人？但我总觉得应该信任您。可最近太多不错的选择出现，您却没给我一点提示。我气恼，不断祷告。后来您安排了这样的一个人出现。第一次见面，十分钟内他就一字不漏地说了那十个字。我错愣！为什么是在这种情况下？为什么是一个陌生人？而且，为什么没有那闪电的感觉？跟他聊着聊着，我觉得这个不是我要的人啊！到底发生了什么事？
这就是您赐给我的那个Mr.Right 吗？抑或想考验我？抑或是教训？我糊涂了... ...
后记：我知道这是您的答案了！
Tuesday, April 7, 2009
阿桑 安息吧！
今天是我的生日，但我和难过....
阿桑在兩年前檢查出有淋巴癌，但她對病情始終都保持低調。去年10月已經是乳癌末期。
（台灣‧台北）以《葉子》這首歌走紅的台灣“療傷歌手”阿桑，週一（4月6日）早上8時半逝，得年34歲。
本名黃嬿璘的阿桑，因為歌聲很滄桑，唱片公司為了幫她取個比本名更好叫的小名，從她的歌聲中想到了“桑”，就取名叫阿桑。
她在兩年前檢查出有淋巴癌，但她對病情始終都保持低調，連家人都不太清楚，只有少數幾個知心好友知道。去年10月健康狀況相當虛弱住進台大醫院，已經是乳癌末期，2月過完34歲生日還是不敵病魔。
《葉子》這首歌紅到連庾澄慶都要翻唱，阿桑因為嗓音特殊，而獲得“療傷歌手”的美名。
阿桑曾經待過藝工隊，也曾短期駐唱酒吧，有豐富的現場演唱經驗，被經紀人資深製作人汪一平發掘之後就辭去演唱的工作專心準備出片，在籌備等待發片的期間，為了維持生活，也當過律師事務所的總機與百貨公司的客服播音小姐。
阿桑病逝消息震驚演藝圈，曾經和阿桑同公司的師兄張智成聽到消息時當場痛哭，情緒一直無法平復，取消所有通告，還在部落格上寫著“桑！你回來啊！師兄我好難過！”張智成的經紀人歐潔表示，原本有慶功宴也往後延，張智成的情緒很不穩定。
http://www.sinchew-i.com/node/85947?tid=213
http://www.sinchew-i.com/node/85913
叶子
寂寞在唱歌
一直很安靜(仙劍奇俠傳插曲)
受了点伤
温柔的慈悲
被动
让我爱
你的世界
保管
疯了
阿桑在兩年前檢查出有淋巴癌，但她對病情始終都保持低調。去年10月已經是乳癌末期。
（台灣‧台北）以《葉子》這首歌走紅的台灣“療傷歌手”阿桑，週一（4月6日）早上8時半逝，得年34歲。
本名黃嬿璘的阿桑，因為歌聲很滄桑，唱片公司為了幫她取個比本名更好叫的小名，從她的歌聲中想到了“桑”，就取名叫阿桑。
她在兩年前檢查出有淋巴癌，但她對病情始終都保持低調，連家人都不太清楚，只有少數幾個知心好友知道。去年10月健康狀況相當虛弱住進台大醫院，已經是乳癌末期，2月過完34歲生日還是不敵病魔。
《葉子》這首歌紅到連庾澄慶都要翻唱，阿桑因為嗓音特殊，而獲得“療傷歌手”的美名。
阿桑曾經待過藝工隊，也曾短期駐唱酒吧，有豐富的現場演唱經驗，被經紀人資深製作人汪一平發掘之後就辭去演唱的工作專心準備出片，在籌備等待發片的期間，為了維持生活，也當過律師事務所的總機與百貨公司的客服播音小姐。
阿桑病逝消息震驚演藝圈，曾經和阿桑同公司的師兄張智成聽到消息時當場痛哭，情緒一直無法平復，取消所有通告，還在部落格上寫著“桑！你回來啊！師兄我好難過！”張智成的經紀人歐潔表示，原本有慶功宴也往後延，張智成的情緒很不穩定。
http://www.sinchew-i.com/node/85947?tid=213
http://www.sinchew-i.com/node/85913
叶子
寂寞在唱歌
一直很安靜(仙劍奇俠傳插曲)
受了点伤
温柔的慈悲
被动
让我爱
你的世界
保管
疯了
Thursday, November 13, 2008
Disappointing Law Enforcers
Please visit http://priestliyg3r.blogspot.com/2008/10/latest-movie-garbage-of-humanity-by.html for Puchong Latest News ~ Garbage of Humanity The incident reminds me of several histories that I would like to forget and forgive but so sorry... I can't! When I was a youngster, I always tell myself, "I won't allow myself to 'beri rasuah' when I became adult." I really anti-rasuah. Adults say, "You will understand 1 day if you have learnt the difficulties of make a living."
By the way, just write to share an experience which hurts a lot. One day in the middle of July, when my boyfriend send me to the college, we were stopped at the highway (midvalley to taman connaught direction, after the tol and the turn to tasik permaisuri). The police officers asked us to stop the car at roadside. We waited for a few seconds and a police officer come and entertain us. He told us that we were driving over the speed limit. So, like general procedure he ask for I/C and driving license and interview us. He asked, "Tak tau ke had laju 80km/j?" My bf answered, "tak tau." We normally take the turn into Tasik Permaisuri and that is our first time get blocked there. The police officer (I will refer as PO in this article) then asked, "selalu lalu sini ke?" and my bf answered, "Tak." Tada! The highlight of the story is coming.... The PO asked, "Boleh saman?" My Bf said, "Boleh." The PO asked, "Betul? Boleh saman ni?" My Bf said, "Boleh."
I started to feel unhappy because I was already late for my lecture. They then chat about something else and the police officer had repeated the same question (Boleh saman ke?) for at least seven times! What is in his mind, faham faham laa... He then just writes us a saman. However, after my boy friend kept his I/C and driving license into his wallet, the police officer who was still standing by the car voiced, "Tak pe lah! Bagi balik. Kali ni beri amaran saja. Lain kali ingat."
We then return the "saman" (fine/"牛肉干") and leave the scene. My parents used to tell me policeman are realistic. They will bully you if you are in "kereta buruk" because people in "kereta buruk" are less likely to be "orang besar". My boy friend also agrees but that day we really in a "kereta buruk" (**his friend just bang his Proton Wira into something few days before that).
2nd incident (happened within the same week)
I went to the Curve with one of my housemates (around 1 o'clock in the midnight) to pick 2 other housemates (they just finished enjoying their movie). On the way back, we were blocked infront of EON bank. I forgot to bring along my I/C and very unlucky + unfortunate, the police officers asked all of us to show our I/C. I was wearing a hot pant and singlet (because I was preparing to go to bed) and another girl was wearing a bit sexy (really a little bit, a T-shirt + mini skirt + long pants).
When I told him I have forgotten to bring along my I/C, he said, "ha... jangan cakap banyak. Tak de I/C tunjuk passport." I say, "Tuan, saya tak ade passport punya." Then he say, "tak de passport masuk lokap..." He then turn to my friend, the one I mentioned earlier and said, "mana passport kamu?" He took over their I/C, have a look at them and asked, "ini betul punya ke? tapi amoi ini tak de... macam mane? Dari mana? China ke? chou kai a?" Then only we realized what is going on. He thought we are in "Special Service Line". 2 of my friends really angry and said, "Please watch your words." He smiled and said, "Heh! Suruh orang hantar I/C amoi baru boleh pergi." and walked to the table. We were in silent because only four of us living together and there is no body else have the key.
Another young police officer come and takes over. One of my friend so suggest that they will go back and take my I/C as we just stay nearby while I'll wait there with another friend. He agreed.As soon as 2 of them got into the car (this time is also the same car, "kereta buruk" borrowed from my boyfriend), the police officer shouted, "siapa cakap boleh pergi?" We explained the situation many times (2 of my friends explained in English while I and another friend explained in Bahasa Malaysia) but he refused to listen to us. He then said to me, "Kejap lagi ikut abang tu balik balai." My friends shouted, "Cannot! That's too dangerous! Why can't you let us go back and get the I/C for her? I told you many times we are Malaysians..." The old and dark police officer again smiled and said, "Yelaa... nanti kamu semua pergi duduk dan rehat rehat dekat balai, lepas tu telepon mak bapak datang jamin."
We were so tired and went into the car. One of my friend make a phone call to her friend who is a lawyer and passed the phone to one of the police officer. The "problem maker" shouted like crazy over the phone and later throw the phone on the table. About 10 minutes later the young police officer came and knocked on the window. He returned the phone, identification cards and told us that we can leave. @#*&%XYZ!!
3rd incident (about 1 week after that... and this incident is told by the victim)
My friend in college went to a bank in Taman Midah. A petrol car stopped her after she drove a distance from the bank. The police officer asked her, "tau tak ape silap kamu?" She said, "ermm.. tak tau." The police officer then asked, "pegi mane tadi?" She just told that he went to the bank. Then the PO asked, "dari mane kamu ingat lagi?" She just said, "From Tasik Selatan." The police officer then continued, "Ingat lagi tak tadi kamu potong lampu merah? Saya ikut kamu dari sana lagi. Tau?" (Confusing, why didn't stop her immediately?) The PO then asked for her I/C + driving license, and... ... saw her notes (just freshly taken out from the ATM machine). She keep silence and the police officer said, "Kamu muda lagi, patut bagi peluang kan?" My friend told me the PO starred at the money in her purse... ... She was frightened and picked out a piece of it. The PO signals her, saying that there is another PO in the petrol car who witnesses the process. She then... ...
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I wonder why these police officers are allover in Malaysia (sorry... in KL and Selangor). Police are people who I trusted before and suppose protecting citizens but... May be Malaysia is just too peaceful... ...
By the way, just write to share an experience which hurts a lot. One day in the middle of July, when my boyfriend send me to the college, we were stopped at the highway (midvalley to taman connaught direction, after the tol and the turn to tasik permaisuri). The police officers asked us to stop the car at roadside. We waited for a few seconds and a police officer come and entertain us. He told us that we were driving over the speed limit. So, like general procedure he ask for I/C and driving license and interview us. He asked, "Tak tau ke had laju 80km/j?" My bf answered, "tak tau." We normally take the turn into Tasik Permaisuri and that is our first time get blocked there. The police officer (I will refer as PO in this article) then asked, "selalu lalu sini ke?" and my bf answered, "Tak." Tada! The highlight of the story is coming.... The PO asked, "Boleh saman?" My Bf said, "Boleh." The PO asked, "Betul? Boleh saman ni?" My Bf said, "Boleh."
I started to feel unhappy because I was already late for my lecture. They then chat about something else and the police officer had repeated the same question (Boleh saman ke?) for at least seven times! What is in his mind, faham faham laa... He then just writes us a saman. However, after my boy friend kept his I/C and driving license into his wallet, the police officer who was still standing by the car voiced, "Tak pe lah! Bagi balik. Kali ni beri amaran saja. Lain kali ingat."
We then return the "saman" (fine/"牛肉干") and leave the scene. My parents used to tell me policeman are realistic. They will bully you if you are in "kereta buruk" because people in "kereta buruk" are less likely to be "orang besar". My boy friend also agrees but that day we really in a "kereta buruk" (**his friend just bang his Proton Wira into something few days before that).
2nd incident (happened within the same week)
I went to the Curve with one of my housemates (around 1 o'clock in the midnight) to pick 2 other housemates (they just finished enjoying their movie). On the way back, we were blocked infront of EON bank. I forgot to bring along my I/C and very unlucky + unfortunate, the police officers asked all of us to show our I/C. I was wearing a hot pant and singlet (because I was preparing to go to bed) and another girl was wearing a bit sexy (really a little bit, a T-shirt + mini skirt + long pants).
When I told him I have forgotten to bring along my I/C, he said, "ha... jangan cakap banyak. Tak de I/C tunjuk passport." I say, "Tuan, saya tak ade passport punya." Then he say, "tak de passport masuk lokap..." He then turn to my friend, the one I mentioned earlier and said, "mana passport kamu?" He took over their I/C, have a look at them and asked, "ini betul punya ke? tapi amoi ini tak de... macam mane? Dari mana? China ke? chou kai a?" Then only we realized what is going on. He thought we are in "Special Service Line". 2 of my friends really angry and said, "Please watch your words." He smiled and said, "Heh! Suruh orang hantar I/C amoi baru boleh pergi." and walked to the table. We were in silent because only four of us living together and there is no body else have the key.
Another young police officer come and takes over. One of my friend so suggest that they will go back and take my I/C as we just stay nearby while I'll wait there with another friend. He agreed.As soon as 2 of them got into the car (this time is also the same car, "kereta buruk" borrowed from my boyfriend), the police officer shouted, "siapa cakap boleh pergi?" We explained the situation many times (2 of my friends explained in English while I and another friend explained in Bahasa Malaysia) but he refused to listen to us. He then said to me, "Kejap lagi ikut abang tu balik balai." My friends shouted, "Cannot! That's too dangerous! Why can't you let us go back and get the I/C for her? I told you many times we are Malaysians..." The old and dark police officer again smiled and said, "Yelaa... nanti kamu semua pergi duduk dan rehat rehat dekat balai, lepas tu telepon mak bapak datang jamin."
We were so tired and went into the car. One of my friend make a phone call to her friend who is a lawyer and passed the phone to one of the police officer. The "problem maker" shouted like crazy over the phone and later throw the phone on the table. About 10 minutes later the young police officer came and knocked on the window. He returned the phone, identification cards and told us that we can leave. @#*&%XYZ!!
3rd incident (about 1 week after that... and this incident is told by the victim)
My friend in college went to a bank in Taman Midah. A petrol car stopped her after she drove a distance from the bank. The police officer asked her, "tau tak ape silap kamu?" She said, "ermm.. tak tau." The police officer then asked, "pegi mane tadi?" She just told that he went to the bank. Then the PO asked, "dari mane kamu ingat lagi?" She just said, "From Tasik Selatan." The police officer then continued, "Ingat lagi tak tadi kamu potong lampu merah? Saya ikut kamu dari sana lagi. Tau?" (Confusing, why didn't stop her immediately?) The PO then asked for her I/C + driving license, and... ... saw her notes (just freshly taken out from the ATM machine). She keep silence and the police officer said, "Kamu muda lagi, patut bagi peluang kan?" My friend told me the PO starred at the money in her purse... ... She was frightened and picked out a piece of it. The PO signals her, saying that there is another PO in the petrol car who witnesses the process. She then... ...
---------------------------------------------
I wonder why these police officers are allover in Malaysia (sorry... in KL and Selangor). Police are people who I trusted before and suppose protecting citizens but... May be Malaysia is just too peaceful... ...
月亮 你不累吗？
从什么时候开始，
月亮绕着地球转？
不顾风吹或雨打，
无论惊涛或海浪，
月亮可曾害怕过？
月亮可曾离开过？
谁说月亮不畏惧？
只是从来不放弃... ...
总是躲躲又闪闪，
守护地球一辈子。
深怕地球受伤害，
担心地球会流泪... ...
地球可曾发现了？
地球可曾在乎吗？
地球可曾感动了？
月亮 你不累吗？
[好久以前（2006年上半年的某一天），上课不专心时写的。那天学着月亮。这首诗的灵感源自于讲师当时讲的一项statement:“moon moves faster tahn other celestial objects.”这句话使当时的我联想到月亮绕着地球公转。那时也写了另一首诗，以太阳、月亮及地球的公转述说三角爱情故事。但是很不幸的，那首诗已不知去向。留下的，只有我对它的淡淡回忆。]
月亮绕着地球转？
不顾风吹或雨打，
无论惊涛或海浪，
月亮可曾害怕过？
月亮可曾离开过？
谁说月亮不畏惧？
只是从来不放弃... ...
总是躲躲又闪闪，
守护地球一辈子。
深怕地球受伤害，
担心地球会流泪... ...
地球可曾发现了？
地球可曾在乎吗？
地球可曾感动了？
月亮 你不累吗？
[好久以前（2006年上半年的某一天），上课不专心时写的。那天学着月亮。这首诗的灵感源自于讲师当时讲的一项statement:“moon moves faster tahn other celestial objects.”这句话使当时的我联想到月亮绕着地球公转。那时也写了另一首诗，以太阳、月亮及地球的公转述说三角爱情故事。但是很不幸的，那首诗已不知去向。留下的，只有我对它的淡淡回忆。]
Wednesday, November 12, 2008
男人、女人
她喜欢上了一个男人，对他很好，是很好的那种。她给他洗衣服，收拾房间，早晨买早点给他，小鸟依人的靠在男人身边。男人觉得有人这样无微不至的照顾是件很惬意的事情，于是他们顺理成章地在一起了。男人慢慢的习惯了有女孩在身边的日子，可后来，女孩选择离开了，是在男人睡梦的时候。男人讲完之后一脸茫然的问我，你说，我哪里做错了？我给她钱买化妆品，有人欺负她，我把那人揍了个半死，我这么爱她，她为什么就走了呢？我安静的听完，没 办法给这个疑惑的男人一个满意的答案。
我们从咖啡厅走了出来，过马路时男人瞅了一个空挡便快步的跑到了对面，向车流这边的我招手说快啊。我有些无奈的笑了. 我问男人是不是不愿意牵女孩的手，他说在家抱抱可以，在外面多不好意思啊。我说他过马路时一定比女孩快，他点头说你怎么知道。我说女孩在刷碗扫地的时 候，他一定是悠闲的看着电视。男人摸着头说自己似乎明白了。我说，如果明白了就去挽回吧。
希望男人是真的明白了。其实很多女人外表坚强，其实内心却是柔弱的，需要男人的呵护。她不在乎你给了她多少钱，却会永远记得你调皮的从路边花坛偷回的那朵放到她手中的月季花。她 在厨房忙碌的时候，你从身后送来的一个吻会让她觉得幸福甜蜜。你们过马路时候，站在左边的你紧紧握住她的手，不论是什么年纪，都会让她觉得安全。世界上女人很多，美丽的，温柔的，聪明的，可爱的……可无论什么类型的女人，期待幸福的心情都是一样的。她们等待着一个男人的出现，等着这个男人对她们好。其实女人期待的是男人对自己好，是件很简单的事情吧？她只希望自己的男人不要因为忙碌而忘记她的生日。想听他在耳边轻声说句，快乐吧，我的宝贝。这时玫瑰也可以省略。她只希望做家务累的时候，他轻轻抚摸自己 的额头说声，宝贝，喝了牛奶再睡吧。即使对于家务，男人一窍不通。她只希望害怕或者孤单的时候，男人在身边搂着她的肩膀坚定的对她说，“别怕，一切有我。”
是的，爱意都是在不经意间流露的。可能对于男人太琐碎太婆妈了，可是女人却一字一句地记在了心底。她们会用更多的爱恋回报你。尝试着在出门之前吻一下你的女人。常常温存的告诉她，你有多么的爱她。休息的时候抢过她手里要洗的衣物。天气好的时候带她到公园散步。睡觉前给她讲讲公司里，回家路上看到的有趣的事情。偶尔耐心倾听女人讲的事情，即使你对白菜5角或是4角一斤不感兴趣。在她穿了新裙子的时候，认真的看2分钟，然后诚心夸奖一下 她。如果裙子大了，就说你又苗条了，如果裙子小了，就说如果大一点会更漂亮。逛街的时候可以拉着女人的手或者揽着她的肩膀，因为这样，她会觉得幸福。女人都希望在平凡中被呵护，被爱着。你温存的点点滴滴一定能让她闻到幸福的芳香。其实女人要的幸福很简单。你要耐心的对你的女人好，不需要如火山火热，也不需要如海浪汹涌，细水长流就足够让她幸福一辈子。
一个黄昏，我接到那个男人的电话。他很兴奋的告诉我，说女孩又回到了他身边。我问他是怎么做的，他说费了很大力气才约到女孩散步，还专挑路口走。过马路时候站在女孩左边，紧紧握住她的手。我笑了，说你现在明白了吧。男人缅典地说，“嘻嘻... ... 明白了，明白了，她跟着我，是需要我疼的。”是啊，当上帝用亚当的肋骨造就一个夏娃时，就预示着男人该认真照顾身边那个是自己身上肋骨变的女子，好好爱她吧，否则你自己的胸口也是会疼痛的。另外，上帝为什么在206根骨头中偏偏选中了肋骨？一切纯属巧合？不是的。“不用头颅骨，因为不要女人骑在男人之上；不用前腿骨也不用后腿骨，因为创造女人不是给男人踩着做奴隶的。上帝用肋骨，寓意女人与男人是平等的。要男人好好爱护他的女人如同爱护自己的身体，也要女人尊重男人，好好互相扶持。”以上这席话，Batu 11 新时代丰收教会(New Generation Harvest Church)的 Pastor Joshua常常提醒男男女女。仡今记忆犹新。
以上这则故事，我在http://www.wall3walking.blogspot.com/看到的，她也是从别人那里“采”来的。其实大部分女人都希望男人会懂这道理，但男人却怎么也学不懂。所以这故事才会广为流传开来。女人希望男人有一天会懂，可那一天却茫茫无期。我说，学懂了的那一小部分就是少有的绝世好男人，男人听到了一定不会承认，只会说，“你们这些女人，人家对你好一点就说人家是好男人，真是天真！”其实我也算幸运，时常都有机会遇上这样的好男人，但为什么我会放手让他们走呢？我也不知道... ...
我们从咖啡厅走了出来，过马路时男人瞅了一个空挡便快步的跑到了对面，向车流这边的我招手说快啊。我有些无奈的笑了. 我问男人是不是不愿意牵女孩的手，他说在家抱抱可以，在外面多不好意思啊。我说他过马路时一定比女孩快，他点头说你怎么知道。我说女孩在刷碗扫地的时 候，他一定是悠闲的看着电视。男人摸着头说自己似乎明白了。我说，如果明白了就去挽回吧。
希望男人是真的明白了。其实很多女人外表坚强，其实内心却是柔弱的，需要男人的呵护。她不在乎你给了她多少钱，却会永远记得你调皮的从路边花坛偷回的那朵放到她手中的月季花。她 在厨房忙碌的时候，你从身后送来的一个吻会让她觉得幸福甜蜜。你们过马路时候，站在左边的你紧紧握住她的手，不论是什么年纪，都会让她觉得安全。世界上女人很多，美丽的，温柔的，聪明的，可爱的……可无论什么类型的女人，期待幸福的心情都是一样的。她们等待着一个男人的出现，等着这个男人对她们好。其实女人期待的是男人对自己好，是件很简单的事情吧？她只希望自己的男人不要因为忙碌而忘记她的生日。想听他在耳边轻声说句，快乐吧，我的宝贝。这时玫瑰也可以省略。她只希望做家务累的时候，他轻轻抚摸自己 的额头说声，宝贝，喝了牛奶再睡吧。即使对于家务，男人一窍不通。她只希望害怕或者孤单的时候，男人在身边搂着她的肩膀坚定的对她说，“别怕，一切有我。”
是的，爱意都是在不经意间流露的。可能对于男人太琐碎太婆妈了，可是女人却一字一句地记在了心底。她们会用更多的爱恋回报你。尝试着在出门之前吻一下你的女人。常常温存的告诉她，你有多么的爱她。休息的时候抢过她手里要洗的衣物。天气好的时候带她到公园散步。睡觉前给她讲讲公司里，回家路上看到的有趣的事情。偶尔耐心倾听女人讲的事情，即使你对白菜5角或是4角一斤不感兴趣。在她穿了新裙子的时候，认真的看2分钟，然后诚心夸奖一下 她。如果裙子大了，就说你又苗条了，如果裙子小了，就说如果大一点会更漂亮。逛街的时候可以拉着女人的手或者揽着她的肩膀，因为这样，她会觉得幸福。女人都希望在平凡中被呵护，被爱着。你温存的点点滴滴一定能让她闻到幸福的芳香。其实女人要的幸福很简单。你要耐心的对你的女人好，不需要如火山火热，也不需要如海浪汹涌，细水长流就足够让她幸福一辈子。
一个黄昏，我接到那个男人的电话。他很兴奋的告诉我，说女孩又回到了他身边。我问他是怎么做的，他说费了很大力气才约到女孩散步，还专挑路口走。过马路时候站在女孩左边，紧紧握住她的手。我笑了，说你现在明白了吧。男人缅典地说，“嘻嘻... ... 明白了，明白了，她跟着我，是需要我疼的。”是啊，当上帝用亚当的肋骨造就一个夏娃时，就预示着男人该认真照顾身边那个是自己身上肋骨变的女子，好好爱她吧，否则你自己的胸口也是会疼痛的。另外，上帝为什么在206根骨头中偏偏选中了肋骨？一切纯属巧合？不是的。“不用头颅骨，因为不要女人骑在男人之上；不用前腿骨也不用后腿骨，因为创造女人不是给男人踩着做奴隶的。上帝用肋骨，寓意女人与男人是平等的。要男人好好爱护他的女人如同爱护自己的身体，也要女人尊重男人，好好互相扶持。”以上这席话，Batu 11 新时代丰收教会(New Generation Harvest Church)的 Pastor Joshua常常提醒男男女女。仡今记忆犹新。
以上这则故事，我在http://www.wall3walking.blogspot.com/看到的，她也是从别人那里“采”来的。其实大部分女人都希望男人会懂这道理，但男人却怎么也学不懂。所以这故事才会广为流传开来。女人希望男人有一天会懂，可那一天却茫茫无期。我说，学懂了的那一小部分就是少有的绝世好男人，男人听到了一定不会承认，只会说，“你们这些女人，人家对你好一点就说人家是好男人，真是天真！”其实我也算幸运，时常都有机会遇上这样的好男人，但为什么我会放手让他们走呢？我也不知道... ...
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